i got some of the best, most sound advice from an older, wiser and MALE peer a few weeks ago. he was hardly prompted by me to dish out these amazing sentences, but he did it anyway and made me sit straight up in the bathtub i was soaking in to read his email in full. the following advice helped pull me out of a funk and have a brighter outlook in general, and i sure as hell hope it does the same for any of you (mainly females) (duh).

happy friday and you’re welcome:

“don’t settle for boys who have no idea how to be with or are threatened by a strong woman. don’t look for maturity in older men who have no real interest in a relationship with a younger woman. only fuck on the first date if you’re looking for a fuck buddy and, in that event, absolutely don’t spend the night. don’t ever get with a man a second time if he doesn’t go down on you before you offer him the same; the same goes for a man who doesn’t go down on you after sex if he gets off first. don’t ever buy the condom excuse: if a guy says he can’t fuck w/ a condom, that’s indicative of much larger character flaws and is an absolute deal breaker. and don’t ever give a fuck if you’re not in a relationship, ever. because this perceived need in us ensures only that we make the worst choices imaginable, usually finding our way to someone our friends [rightfully] can’t stand. and being in a relationship where you’re constantly defending someone you know you shouldn’t be with is a real pain in the ass.”

again, you’re welcome.

- emma

Emma is ridiculously outstanding and will be writing regularly for the site going forward. This post was originally featured on her amazing fantastic blog, Emma's Things, which you would be a crazy person not to check out and/or read in its entirety.

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